Rose Miller 
Narcissists are very good at manipulating others’ views of them. Sometimes it takes a while to see that all is not as it seems. They will lead you on and fill you with false promises. Below are five things a narcissist will never tell you about how they hook you in.
I will mirror you
I learn very quickly what makes you happy and what makes you tick. I keep that information close and use it to show you that I am exactly what you are looking for in a partner. I really don’t care about you or your interests. I just want you to think we are one and the same because I need some supply to manipulate. This method makes you trust me and once you are trauma bonded it will take you years to see that I am not what you thought I was. I have no healthy sense of self, I am empty inside so copying you will surely give me a chance.
I am a chronic liar
Our entire relationship will be based on lies. If you try to bring it to my attention I will go into a raging fit because I believe the lies I tell. I use lying to get my way and don’t think of the consequences and if I get caught in a lie I will just use more lies to cover it up. I even know that you know I am lying but I just can’t stop. Lying is a lot more exciting than my boring truth.
I will drain you of all your resources
I will use you in every way I can. I will use all your financial resources. I will use any excuse to take your money and disguise it as needing your help. I may even promise to return it, but I only make empty promises so you will never see that money again. I will also drain your energy and I will leave you feeling depressed without understanding why. Just being in my presence will leave you feeling exhausted.
I will never be accountable for my actions.
I can do no wrong, so if you have a problem with my actions that’s on you. If you try to hold me accountable I will deflect my shortcomings onto you and I will gaslight you until you believe that it’s all your fault and back off. Even though I am not accountable for my actions you better believe that I will hold you accountable for yours. You will then try to bend over backwards trying to accommodate me and become extremely emotional when it doesn’t work. By the time you learn you can’t change me no matter what you do or don’t do, you will be a shell of a person.
I will turn everyone against you if you leave.
I don’t respond to ultimatums, so chances are you will be fed up and want to leave. If you try to leave I will blame you for everything. Everything will be your fault no matter how outrageous it sounds and since I am a good manipulator suddenly I will tell people that you were abusing me and that you are the crazy one and I was helping you but you don’t appreciate it. Get ready to lose your family and friends because I will make it my life’s mission to make you feel the abandonment I now feel. (Read more: The Bad Ex Wife – The Rose Miller Story)
Deep down I am a broken little child who never learned how to heal. I fear people finding out I am a fraud and not good enough so if you leave my self-image will be shattered and I can’t handle that. I fear abandonment and will do anything to prevent you from leaving but if you find a way to leave I will make it very difficult for you to move on. (Read more: 5 Important steps to leave a narcissist. – The Rose Miller Story)
