Rose Miller 
Narcissism is a word we use to describe extremely selfish people. These people have a sense of entitlement and a sense of grandiosity and just like there are many different types of selfishness, there are also many types of narcissists. It ranges from simply being difficult to work with to being afraid they will harm you. So how do we identify the type of narcissist we are dealing with? Listed below are five narcissistic types and the characteristics that go with it.
1. Grandiose Narcissist
This is the easiest to spot. They are cocky and show off, they don’t show much empathy and act entitled. This is a textbook narcissist. They walk around talking about themselves and most people can see through them. They are not hiding their narcissism because they believe they are amazing.
The reason they move to the top so fast is because they have charisma, confidence, and cleverness. They look good and they are usually very successful in the world. As long as their life is falling into place things are well. If their version of success is at risk they will rage and their mask will fall off. They love-bomb a love interest but it fades very quickly.
2. Covert Narcissist
Covert means hidden but it came to mean vulnerable narcissist. They often present as depressed and needy. They are hostile and negative. Covert narcissists don’t have big success but instead say things like ‘Why should I sit through this class, it’s not worth my time?’ Or, ‘Why should I work there?’ they believe they are better than that.
They’re dismissive of the opinions of others, they think they are the smartest. They dismiss professionals who study believing they know better. But they always have excuses as to why they aren’t successful, they blame everyone and everything but don’t take responsibility for their actions. They mock anyone who tries to do something and dismiss their hardwork by saying ‘they were lucky’, but are envious of other’s success.
3. Benign Narcissist
They are a mild version of narcissism. They are extroverted and usually the light of the party. They have charisma and charm but need constant validation. They are the “fun” parent, they let the kids do what they want. They are immature and very shallow.
It’s easy to get sucked in because it’s not toxic, it’s a fun relationship. After some time you start to feel like you are the adult in the relationship. They are very superficial and not partner material. This relationship will never be deep and you will never feel fulfilled in the relationship.
4. Neglectful Narcissist
This type of Narcissist is completely detached. They seem to act as though you cease to exist. This is one way their lack of empathy comes through. If you have kids with them they take no responsibility for the kids and expect you to do it all. (Read more here: ) Their superiority shows in that they feel above caring for you or the kids.
They believe they are entitled to ignore you. They starve their intimate partner of any validation, intimacy and you feel like a ghost in your own home. Since narcissists need constant validation themselves they may be treating others outside the relationship differently. They receive their validation from co-workers or they may have another intimate relationship on the side until they get bored of the new interest. It’s more of a passive-aggressive style of narcissism.
5. Malignant Narcissist
This is the most dangerous type of narcissism. They use exploitativeness, manipulation, coercive control, and cruelty. They are very deceitful and are pathological liars. They disregard the needs and safety of others. They will bend and break the law without the fear of consequence because they believe they are above the law.
They focus on power. They do this by bullying or coercive control. They often pursue sexual partners but see them as just a number. They have no regard for people as human but only how they can serve them. They use psychological confusion to get people to go along with them. They challenge your loyalty to make you do something they want.
The biggest problem with any of these narcissistic types is that they cause harm to the people around them but they don’t see that they are the problem. They will often project their difficulty onto you. They will not change and they will not understand. So as a warning don’t go and tell them you figured them out, it will not end well regardless of what type of narcissist they are. Instead, learn how to handle them and if at all possible cut ties.
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