Rose Miller 
In November of 2019, just a year after I escaped an abusive marriage I wrote a book. The divorce took a long time, he was fighting me tooth and nail and racking up lawyer fees. He continued abusing me through the court system but the judge didn’t see it for a while. A close friend kept encouraging me to write it all down and after a traumatic experience, I listened. Besides for a healthy release from all the frustration and torment I endured, I wanted to answer the age-old question of why women stay in abusive relationships in more detail than a blog post. (Read more: 5 Reasons Women Stay in Abusive Relationships – The Rose Miller Story).
The first draft hit over 170,000 words and we barely scratched the surface. I had to split it into two parts because when covid hit my ex was on the run from the cops and who knew how it would all end? (Read more: Father’s Day – The Rose Miller Story) But readers want justice and victory and what I realized was missing was my transformation. As much as I wanted to show why women stay in abusive relationships I wanted to help readers understand why women get into them in the first place. Wouldn’t it be better to prevent women from getting into abusive relationships than to just understand why it’s hard to leave?
From the book and sequel, an eight-part series was developed, of which I am currently working on the fourth one. The backstory matters, it intensifies the victory so I had to go back in time and take the readers through my day-to-day life to understand the depths of betrayal when he minimizes me as my children’s mother, claiming I did nothing for them. It should make the reader just as angry as it made me because they’ve witnessed firsthand the struggles he put me in.
A rich storyline accommodates each book bringing past, present, and future together as I transform before your very eyes over the years from the woman who was unaware of the abuse to the woman who broke free. They say that patterns tend to repeat themselves to teach a lesson, I guess reliving my childhood as an adult showed me I didn’t learn mine. Generational trauma, family dynamics, and personal insecurities are all part of living in survival mode and need to be processed to heal. When healing begins, tolerance for disrespect diminishes and a new reality presents itself and it’s a hard pill to swallow and not everyone makes it out alive. (Read more: Therapy- Igniting a Spark Within – The Rose Miller Story)
Follow Rose Miller from the depths of her despair to the miracle of her sitting in front of the courthouse reclaiming her life and breaking all barriers that get in her way. Meet the new Rose and watch her leave her old self behind, it doesn’t happen overnight, but she’s blossoming into the woman she was meant to be.
None of the books have been published yet because, honestly, I am still afraid, afraid of his retaliation, but that hasn’t stopped me from writing. I’ve rediscovered myself through this process and I remembered who I am and where I come from and that I am so much more than a survivor of domestic violence. I reconnect with parts of myself that have been lost for decades and I reintroduce them into my new life. Narcissistic abuse takes parts of yourself and healing includes reclaiming them. There’s a reason they target strong women. If you’ve been targeted by a narcissist, they saw something powerful in you, because they don’t choose weak people.
My story is deep and intimate, I tell it like it is with all its pain and glory as it should be. It’s what makes Rose Miller who she is. Fragile and confident, vulnerable and thorny, unique and rare. I am proud of my story, I wasn’t always, and I am still a work in progress. I worked hard and earned my keep. I will publish when the time is right, I have faith. It’s a tribute to my late mother who encouraged me to share my truth, stand tall, and find my voice again.
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